As an entrepreneur, you sometimes forget that being in charge doesn’t mean you have to know everything. When you feel stuck in an intractable dilemma and struggle with a seemingly intractable problem, remember that “get out of your head” is the personal equivalent of the Lean Startup mantra, “get out of the building.”
Learning this was a huge step for me to become a more successful entrepreneur.
I prided myself on being a young driven entrepreneur and getting out of many business problems. But sometimes in my career I faced problems that I could not solve. Sometimes these problems keep me awake at night worrying, thoughts racing around my head like a hurricane between my ears. I only think of the worst outcomes, thinking of only black and white solutions or no solutions at all. I would go through this loop when my wife told me to “go to sleep” until I finally passed out from stress and exhaustion. Sometimes this went on for days.
If the problems were corporate politics, I’d be defensive and ready to fight the next day. (Relationship with sales and marketing department was a common food fight and problem). If it was a meeting my boss called, I was pretty sure I’d be fired (although I can’t think of any rational reason why). Half the time I’m surprised to find that there isn’t even a problem or obstacle I thought of. I highlighted a comment, document, or interaction, and imagining the worst possible outcome allowed it to spiral out of control.
It took me a long time to see that there was an easy way to break this stressful cycle and come up with much better options. The key, I found, was to get out of my head and talk to other people.
you are not alone
I didn’t realize it as a child.
- Most of the problems I encountered at work were common problems. Others are experiencing these problems now or have experienced them in the past
- If other problems were encountered, there were solutions or at least good advice
- If I shared that I was stuck, and needed help, more was available.
- This applies not only to problems at work, but also at home.
1. These They were. Common problems: Others are experiencing the same problems now or have experienced them in the past
When I was trying to solve a problem, it never occurred to me that these problems weren’t just about me. I felt like they were mine alone. mine And that meant I had to figure it out on my own.
I had never been in trouble before so I assumed no one else had. (In hindsight, this was probably due to my age/inexperience.) Later in my career, I began to see common problems repeat themselves. But at that time I never thought that others faced similar problems.
2. If Others have faced these problems, then there are solutions or at least good advice.
Here’s a crucial opportunity I missed. There was a whole world of people who had gone through or had gone through what I was struggling with. Some of them knew how to solve it, some of them made bad decisions and did not find a solution, but all of them had the experience of seeing a solution in one way or another. Some could tell you about their past, others could tell you what they did or didn’t do, and a few had real wisdom to share. And often I really get what I think is a critical problem. It doesn’t stop my work or anyone really cares.
3. If I just shared that I was stuck and needed help, more would be available.
Need advice from others? Ask others for help? The thought never crossed my mind. (See Item 1) And if he had, I would not have accepted it. why? So losing control, accepting failure, losing dignity, being embarrassed, etc. I thought I should have all the answers.
Getting out of my own head and asking others for help required a network of mentors/coaches and mentors. I didn’t have any/much at the start of my career. Later I realized how valuable they were. When I started dating, I learned not only how to solve my particular problem, but also how to ask what worked. they Do they do when they feel stuck? How did they learn to do this instead of staying in their heads?
When I was an entrepreneur, a face-to-face meeting or a phone call was the only way to get advice. This was a stumbling block for many. Today, the Internet has removed most of these barriers. Go online and find other people who have had the same issues you’re struggling with with a simple search and read how they solved them.
4. This is not only for problems at work but also at home.
Like most people, I sometimes had personal issues like dating, marriage, etc. outside of work, which distracted me and made me ineffective at work. I finally realized that getting out of my head at home gave me space to be more productive at work. However, asking for help is often more difficult due to embarrassment, denial, etc. Problems and their treatment.
- The “get out of your head” strategy is the personal equivalent of Lean’s beginner’s “get out of the box.”
- Don’t waste your time. Contact mentors, coaches and advisors for personalized advice. Use the web for general advice
- “Getting out of my head” to ask for advice and experience the art of becoming a more successful entrepreneur was a big step.
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