I am 62 years old and recently retired. My wife is 56 years old and still working. We have been married for 32 years. She will retire at age 60 to receive a full pension from her company and we have several million dollars in our retirement savings.
We travel abroad together once a year for about 10 days. I have talked to him about my desire to travel more often by myself or with my friends in retirement, as it is now my “golden age” and I am still physically able to do it. I like opera/classical music and would like to go to some music festivals, like the Salzburg festival, etc.
My wife thinks I’m selfish since she still works. I have explained that we cannot predict our future physical abilities (my knees are getting worse). If, by the time she retires, I am no longer physically strong enough to travel, I may regret it forever.
If the situation were to change and she wanted to travel by herself or with her friends after she retired, I think it would be selfish of me to insist that she not do it. Is he right? Is my desire to travel more before my wife retires selfish?
Dear meditator: I do not think so. You have worked hard for many years to be able to afford luxury and should be “allowed” to enjoy the benefits of your labor with her blessing. In a few years, she will have the same freedom.
PS I hope your health will allow you both to take many vacations together in the future. And don’t count yourself out because of your “worsening” knees. As I’m sure you know, knee replacements are common now. Some individuals I know say it has greatly improved their lives. (Hips, too!)